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Appreciate what you have and be less concerned about what you don't have

I often recollect about the times in my life when I felt like I had it bad or that my the experience I was going through was the worst thing that could possibly happen to me. The idea that there is no hope and that the life we are living has too many constraints for us to avoid failure is untrue. I realize that as long a you have options life and your "bad experience" isn't really that bad at all. Sure, we have all heard that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. But, what I am talking about is the ability to open your eyes, walk, smell and make conscious decisions. The ability to say I will or I won't. It sounds so simple but comes at bit of a cost. The cost is in fact self realization to "make yourself". In many instances we are the cause of our own sadness. I have been guilty of boxing myself in and when things don't fit into that box I get sad. I wouldn't try different methods based on being scared of the unknown. So in a sense I was my own prisoner. Have you taken your options away? Have you not looked at all the vast and great things that encompasses who you are and put too much attention on what you do not have? If so, this is deleting your options.

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Taking Personal Inventory

I have been very attracted to the phrase "personal inventory" and how to go about taking a personal inventory of myself. After, a dozen conversations with friends I have realized this is one of my least favorite life choirs to do. I apparently assume that I control my actions and they are based on decisions that I make and not actions made by other people. Not always the case. Taking personal inventory deals with many different aspects of one's life and how you go about taking personal inventory depends on how honest you are with yourself. Some of the best questions to begin taking personal inventory are:

Who are the people in my life that I learn from and invest my time in?
What are my goals?
Am I happy with my life?
Do I contribute positively to people around me?

This is just a small list of some of the questions I use to do a personal inventory.

What I have learned that truly impacts taking a personal inventory is to look at why negative and positive things may occur. For instance, we as human beings love to take credit for positive things that happen in our lives, but like to blame someone for the failures that occur. In our relationships, we tend to blame the other party for our unhappiness and discomfort. We don't see how our actions may have lead to the situation that we are currently experiencing. The perplexing thing about taking a personal inventory is you see the problem and discover your hiccups. But, how do you prevent yourself from doing the same thing over and over again? Lesson 1 The Break-UP Technique: It's not you it's me. Stop and look at why you are hurt, angry, uncomfortable and work on understanding where these feeling are truly coming from. It takes time and considerable practice, but you can see results.
Have you taken a "personal inventory"?

Do you give back what you ask for?

Recently, I have had some close friends do things that I found offensive and in my early years would have probably never talked to them again. I had to take a personal inventory of myself and realize that in many cases I have asked for my friends to be "perfect", a position as a friend, I had no intention of reciprocating. Being a friend means you take the good and the bad, the high and the lows. I would say it's similar to a marriage. It's not always perfect, but the foundation that it is built on is solid. Have you asked for perfect friendship and have not given what you asked back?

How to get through negative experiences and turn them into valuable resources

At a point in my life I nearly lost everything. I had to re-evaluate how approach my career, my family, and my life. To come out of a crisis how does one do it without losing anything at all and gaining everything?