Relationship with me

Relationships are built on what? And why do we find ourselves asking God to save us from the one we are in a relationship with or deliver us to a partner that appreciates what we bring? I recently had to ask many of my friends opinions on decisions I was making in my own relationship to garner some clarity. I came to the conclusion that no matter how hurt I got and how disappointed I was in decisions my partner made I was always told that all relationships take work! What the hell is work? Glad you asked. Work is accepting the faults your partner has and realizing you’re not that perfect either. In fact if you take the time to figure out what may bother you about your relationship it may be something as simple as understanding yourself. I mean minus cheating and adultery. I thought about how as time progresses in a relationship you began to forget about why you’re in a relationship in the first place. I caught myself wondering if I was in another relationship with someone things would be better. Wrong! It would be the same problems new person. I forgot about the real reasons I love my partner and the funny feeling in my stomach I got when I would see her. But it’s there you just have to uncover it and realize why things may have gotten buried. The saying “Life happens” is accurate but they forgot to tell you life happens and you must remember that your not alone and having a relationship is about sharing. I believe love is a never ending journey and so is friendship. They both go hand and hand. But like anything it takes longevity and maturation.

You get back what you put out

I was in the theater watching Avatar and I thought about how we all are connected in some form. Relationships connect like forms of enery traveling the pipelines of human thought and emotion. At a point some of the energy travels right back to you based on the overwhelming amount of negative or positive energy you have put out. I used to hear about " You get what you put out" all the time. I didn't really get the point and couldn't understand how I could control it. But, the ironic thing is that you can control what comes back to you. But it takes practice and a great deal of self awareness, most of all, it takes honesty. So am I saying, that bad things don't happen to good people? Absolutley not. I am saying, good people don't really acknowledge bad things. Let me clarify, people who are in tune with what they put out into the universe don't allow negative things to enter or cause a reaction from them. They are focused with being who they are and stay steady on the stream of positive thought conciousness. Don't get confused with the term good and bad I use it not in the context of right and wrong. But more for people who have great clarification of self-being. This exercise of giving or sharing positive thought creates harmony. For example try this exercise, walk into a room of people you dont know. Don't say anything and look angry. You will illicit, more than likely, negative responses. If you try the same exercise and look happy you will probably illicit the same response in return. This holds true with the daily walk of life "experiences". Try it.